(12-14-2025, 06:40 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]I'm sorry to hear abaout your friend.
Concerning the girls who suddenly had boyfriends... remember always the saying: Audentes fortuna iuvat.
Fortune favors the bold.
If you want a woman, say so. Don't hem and haw until someone more bold comes along and states clearly that he wants her too, which she will interpret as "He wants me more, so I'll go with him."
It is understandable that you will need time to recover emotionally from losing your friend.
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Shannon
Thanks.
I told both girls Okay I'll leave them alone.
One of the girls saw me Yesterday when I went to eat lunch at her work. Brit.
I got a different server. Brit is usually my server.
I sat and ate minding my business and brit noticed me and said Hi and held up her hand. I did the same.
I continued to enjoy my meal. Chit chatted with my server and when I stood up to leave Brit had walked by, stopped and looked back. She said Have a good day. I said you too.
So at the front desk I talked with my server as I paid and I told her Id like to make a Merry Christmas tip.
So I did.
Brit came and stood in front of the computer behind My server. Id told my server Merry Christmas and left.
Brit was all for the trip when I asked. She didn't mention a boyfriend. She had said she can probably go 3rd week of December so Saturday I text and asked if we were still doing The trip.
That's when she said she's so busy etc she also has a boyfriend.
The other girl agreed to meet but stood me up last 2 weeks and later that night she text saying she'd been out with her boyfriend all day etc.
I said okay I'll leave you alone.
She replied saying she and her boyfriend (she named him. And its a guy I know.)
"We had talked about how much they both liked me. Hope to see you soon

"
My female friends said she was being mean when she said that but it was in text so I don’t know.
I really never deal with this stuff so I see it as like how did I even get played like this, especially when Im using X4A-1511.
When I ask a girl out she agrees and we do the thing.
Sometimes we reschedule.
Im executing because plenty attractive women smile and say hey like They know me ..
When I tell my friends about this they just say they would treat them like crap from now on and that's just not how I conduct myself.
Advice on what to do about each girl?