In your case, and a lot of others, you will need to change in ways that are significant in order to achieve the program's goals, because until you accept them as possible and then start to change your thinking and beliefs from what they were to what they must be, you will stagnate with what you have always had.
It may be that that was your subconscious screaming "I can't change!", which is of course not true.
Whatever the case, if and when you become unstable emotionally, make sure you are safe.
Also remember Rule 4. This post violates it. Please change that. In response to the part that violates it, I would say that you should consider that perhaps you have simply been given the task of outgrowing the limitations you perceive yourself to have, partly by realizing they are not really limitations, and partly by taking charge of your own life instead of looking for someone else to take care of you. Growing into that has made me much more attractive to women.
I didn't mention my cancer treatment to make you feel guilty or sorry for me or compare dick sizes, so don't think any of that. I was trying to point out how I dealt with adversity and refused to give up in spite of "the cards I was dealt". Shit happened, and I had the option of becoming a self pitying loser who lived on food stamps and pretended to be helpless, or standing up, refusing to be pitied, rejecting the identity of "helpless cancer victim" and making something worthwhile of the rest of my life. I did exactly that. No matter what adversity or challenge we face, I strongly believe that we would not face it if we could not find some way to deal with or overcome it. I believe that we are never given a challenge we cannot deal with or overcome, if we really try.
The next paragraph reveals a seriously flawed belief you have about what a man must do to be valuable and valid and attractive to a woman. You are very wrong.
Quote:All the things we have to do, being in top shape, earning high income, being handsome, having a big cock, dancing like a monkey, dancing to the tunes of a woman, I feel like an caged animal. All the things men have to do just to please a woman, just to build attraction, and to get in her pants. Listening to this program etc, sometimes I just wish that I could turn this shit off.
You don't have to be in top shape.
You don't have to earn a high income.
You don't have to be handsome.
You don't have to have a big cock.
You don't have to dance like a monkey. (In fact that will either turn her off or land you a fucked up woman.)
Do you want to know what a woman wants, William? She wants two things. She wants to feel secure, and she wants to be happy. Just like you.
Women are attracted to muscly guys because that feeds into her security algorithm. Subconsciously, she is thinking, "He is big and strong, so he can protect me, feed me and he will provide me with babies who will survive to carry on my genes." i.e. security.
Women are attracted to high income because it means that if she is with him, she will have financial security. He can protect her, feed her, and because he has a high income, he can presumably provide her with babies that will survive and carry on her genes.
Handsome tells a woman, "This man's genes produce a symmetrical face and body." That apparently helps her decide that your genes are good. But handsome is easily the last thing most women are really looking for in a guy. They may not realize it, but it's true: most women will take a guy who is average looking or even ugly over a handsome man if he can make her feel taken care of, cared about and secure in the right ways. For example, does she feel like she matters to you? Does she feel like she is safe trusting her heart to you? Does she feel like you will keep her safe to whatever degree you can? Does she feel like she can trust you when the chips are down? Does she feel like you want her? Does she feel like she is more than just a vagina to you? Does she feel like you pay attention to her? Does she feel like you really care about her? THOSE are the things a woman REALLY wants. THAT is what makes a woman look at you and see value even if you're not handsome. And I know, some guys will say, "Oh, that's just being Beta." No, if you provide those things for your chosen female, you are being good LTR material. And in a LTR, as long as you don't legally marry her or bore her, you will have access to her vajayjay. If you do it right, you will also have access to her heart through her vajayjay, because sex to most women is a very deeply intimate thing, which is why most of them don't want random hookups.
You don't need to have a big cock. You need to know how to make her feel like she is getting equal pleasure when you have sex. You could have a legit micropenis (not saying you have one), and if you can give her pleasure with your hands or tongue or toys well enough, she'll usually overlook that. The key is, she needs to be given the same sexual pleasures you would give her if you had a big cock. Give her some amazing tongue dancing on her nether regions! Learn to use your fingers and hands in interesting ways! Get a nice glass dildo or a vibrator and give her some deeper pleasure with that. Just make sure she gets her fair share of sexual attention and pleasure during sex.
As for dancing like a money, that's what betas do. That will turn off the worthwhile ones, and the ones who will come forward are the ones who are messed up who want to use and take advantage of you. Self respect should prevent you from ever dancing like a monkey for any woman.
Quote:Why do I need this validation from women? Why do I need human interaction and why do I need companionship? Why do I want to be desired alot by women? Also when women look at me, I feel very uncomfortable.
You think you need validation from women, but you don't. What you need is validation from yourself. Until you start self validating, women won't give you validation.
You need human interaction because you're human.
As to whether you need companionship, there are two schools of thought. One says, "It's just human nature." and one says, "You're seeking outside yourself for what you need to provide yourself with, and only then will it become available outside you." In this case, you would have to become your own companionship, your own friend. Seeking others to make you whole or fulfill you is not attractive to women. Women are attracted to men who can take care of themselves, physically, emotionally and otherwise. What used to be the signals of an adult male, not a boy. Now we have a society in chaos and most men don't know how to do this anymore.
I would bet that when women look at you, you feel uncomfortable because you believe that you aren't good enough, and they will reject you, which will hurt your feelings and prove that you're not good enough.
That means you are being hampered by faulty beliefs and faulty thinking. Whether or not you are "good enough" is up to you, not just in terms of what you believe about yourself, but also in what you choose to do about it. The fact is, for every male at every level, there is a female somewhere (or a person, let's say, to be all inclusive) who is on his level and would be happy to be with him in whatever capacity. The key is, are you at a level where you can attract that level of person that you want yet? If not, keep growing. And that means rooting out faulty limiting beliefs and thinking, and changing them. Grow into being the man that would attract the kind of woman you want. And remember that not every woman is attracted to muscles; my girlfriend actually likes that I'm not muscular, and is repulsed by the body builder types at our gym. Not every woman needs a handsome man. My girlfriend says that I'm the best looking guy she ever dated, but that for her, it wasn't looks that ever really mattered; she says that before me, she dated some ugly guys, because they were able to meet what she needed and in the right way - security, emotional comfort and understanding. Big cock isn't necessary as long as you are considerate instead of selfish or lazy during sex. And so on.
So next time you catch yourself thinking negative failure based and failure causing thoughts, start actively disassembling them, replacing them with positive and empowering thoughts and beliefs.
Quote:I wish I could delete all that shit.
Nothing stopping you but you.
Quote: Maybe just focus on being valuable / adding value to our society. Like Elon Musk, I admire him. He’s doing very important stuff and he forgot women to do his mission her on earth. Lol I feel like a worthless bum eventhough i’m still a student but in huge debts.
This is because you hold beliefs that do not work for you achieving your goals. Beliefs that lead you to think things like, "I'm not good enough. I am worthless. Nobody will want me. I don't compare to other guys."
Those beliefs have to be rooted out and changed to beliefs that result in success, positive thinking, successful results and positive moods. And when you start doing that process, it can result in some pretty serious upset. That just means you're changing. Keep going.
Nothing is impossible, except that your beliefs make it so.
