07-17-2015, 04:16 AM
Hello everybody,
As new comer , it's so glad to join this forum. I accidentally found it on the internet.
My name is James, i am 21 years old and a studient of university. I have two brothers. They are Steward (19) and Amstue (15).
Although i am the older. But it seems i'm not a mature person. My first brother, Steward is always in front of me. He always takes the lead. When he does, it makes me upset. Poor!
The Issue :
Please guys, what should i do. I realy realy need your advicement.
Which product should i use?
As new comer , it's so glad to join this forum. I accidentally found it on the internet.
My name is James, i am 21 years old and a studient of university. I have two brothers. They are Steward (19) and Amstue (15).
Although i am the older. But it seems i'm not a mature person. My first brother, Steward is always in front of me. He always takes the lead. When he does, it makes me upset. Poor!
The Issue :
- Being Introverted
- Passive
I never initiate to take action. I always fear to do something. Poeple in my environment is always afraid about me. They think that i'm just an "unused item"
- Low General Skill
It's like passive. I don't know how to use toolbox. In my mind " what should i do with the hammer? " etc.
As i said my brothers always take the lead. On the housework/workhouse , he is very active. Me? Haha no lol. When men view it as a game. For me it's big problem i can't solve.
- Mental Block
People, specially my parents, uncle, all member of family view me as a weak person. Because i can't do anything.
Ex:
I would like to help to paint an area of the wall. But i was afraid to do that. I am afraid that is incorrect area.
As the older, it is strange to seek approval to my brother which is younger than me. Come on, it's just painting the wall and ..... Ahhh poor!
What a male with low status i am?
Another ex:
When my parents got a problem, i was frozen and didn't do anything. WHAT?????
- Egoist
I don't care of what happened and what will happen to other people in my environment, except my best friends.
- Anti Social
- Feel Fear in Every "Corner"
It's everytime, everywhere,everything. Owh,damn it!
It's specially when someone shouts at me when i do something wrong ( or it may something right that they think it's wrong)
- Not Confidence
- The Shame is Everywhere
I am afraid face people. No eye contact.
- Loneliness
- Not Reliable (the big one)
Your parents will be rightfully proud, when their son is reliable.
- Perfectionist
All the issues make me STRESS. What happened to me? Why am i so different with my two brothers? Why am i so weak? Why me?
Please guys, what should i do. I realy realy need your advicement.
Which product should i use?