X124 help

[TNHusband]

I would suggest that you will do better to address the issue, instead of wonder why X124 isn't working.

If she is resistant, and she does not know it's playing then she is resisting sex. X124 presents to her subconscious mind the sounds of sexual activity, and this always produces one of two reactions: Arousal, or resistance.

When the reaction is resistance, there is something causing her to resist. It's almost always one or more beliefs and/or experiences that cause her to fear sex or some consequence of sex at a subconscious level. So really it's not that "X124 isn't working", it's that she's resisting it.

The solution is not X24. The solution is to figure out why she is resisting, and clear the blockage. You'll do better with that from Overcoming Fear, Overcoming Guilt/Shame and Fear or Emotional Healing & Pain Relief Aid. Generally the latter two work best, but for a resistant personality it may take months. Resistant personalities naturally resist, so it takes a while.

If you do go the route of X24, make sure that:

1. You've tried talking through why she's not interested in sex or new things, and
2. She knows what's going on, because trust is key to sex. In fact some sort of lack of trust for some reason is frequently why women resist sex!

So if you do get X24, get it, tell her about it, and suggest that you thought it might be nice because it's designed for enhancing the lovingness of sex and intimacy. Then let her experience it on her own terms, and at her own pace.

Personally, I'd go for EHPRA for six months and clear her and you out emotionally while you sleep, and then see how things work. Sorry to be suggesting such long times, but as I said, resistant personalities usually do things slowly and of course resistance takes time to overcome.

Thanks for the suggestions. I may not have been very clear, though. I don't think she resists sex in general. We do it a couple of times a week. Rather, what she seems to resist is talking about it, making changes to the manner in which sex occurs, experimenting with anything sexual, etc. She does not some hang ups, so your suggestions certainly might help with those, but the only purpose behind playing these is to loosen her up a bit (which happens at times with alcohol for her). Best case scenario would be to increase frequency to maybe 3 times per week, but what I am really looking for is to help her loosen up (i.e., more passionate, as mentioned in the product description) and possibly initiate sex from time to time. Not really trying to get her to have sex when she otherwise doesn't want to.