10-16-2013, 03:24 PM
(10-16-2013, 09:21 AM)smoothsam Wrote: Hey Sarge,
Self Acceptance, Self Approval, Self Control, Self Discipline, Self Love, Self Forgiveness, Forgiving others, Gratitude, Self Esteem, Positive Body Image, Body Language, Life Purpose, Step outside comfort zone on a continual basis, learning from mistakes, Self Confidence, Leading interactions, Become social. Each time I step outside my comfort zone, I live, learn, love, and grow. Seek the challenge seems like the major piece that can amplify all areas. The 6 needs boil down to Seek the challenge (step outside your comfort zone).
I totally agree that seek the challenge should be included. Now that I think of it, most of the time I was waiting for Am to "kick in", rather than just doing things myself.
But to feel important is not necessarily satisfied with seeking a challenge.
Also, fear of failure and fear success should both be addressed.
Basically, from what I understand, fear is the belief that if X happens then you won't be able to handle it.
So for me, I believe my fears with getting good with women are that I simultaneously believe that I won't be able to handle rejection, while also believing that I won't be able to handle a successful relationship.
However, my fear of success and failure goes far beyond the realm of women. My fear of success far outweighs my fear of failure because I find myself being comforted in my failures, and almost prefer them, while I also fear being noticed by others for either my success or my failure.
So we should add something that addresses that as well.
Overall, I think we want to be stable, self-sufficient, while also driven to go after what we want without caring what others think, while being calm and "zen" enough to simply learn from our own experiences without putting too much emphasis on our results.
Self-trust is a big one too. But yeah, more brainstorming is needed for sure. I can't think of everything right now, I just got back from work.
