I find it fascinating that of all the people who have used this sub and reported back, Patti, you are the only one who comes to mind for having this difficulty letting go of smoking. Everyone else who uses the sub properly just simply forgets to smoke and in fact it is difficult to get them to see why they should continue to use the program after that. They shift into being a nonsmoker without effort, and their biggest risk is that they will quit using the program before they're finished with it because they don't see the point.
I think I’m on a different level than others that have used your program. I believe myself to be more with the group of people that we’ve both encountered whom don’t wish to stop, really. What I have seen in most of my experience of successful quit smokers, is it’s usually the first try. Those of us that struggle have made it more of a trial and error type of situation, with the failures writing our history as well as much of our future. It would be interesting for me to know of the quitters you mentioned, how many times they’ve tried to quit, how much they’ve smoked and for how long. I think it all makes a difference and may possibly be why it’s harder for one person more than another. Another point, is that it’s been with me for every single emotion that I’ve encountered. It’s similar to being married for a very long time and then not. There’s an incompleteness that I feel.
I think the hardest part is the psychological part. I compare it to being an alcoholic. They never stop being an alcoholic, they just don’t drink. I may always be a smoker, that just doesn’t smoke.
I don’t want you think I’m struggling to the point of giving in yet, because I’m not. My acknowledged fear at this point, is that what I feel, feels very familiar. It just feels like I’m taking a break. I think that was something I told myself to get through other times that I had stopped. I think the program at this point is giving me the will power to choose not to smoke. Right now, because of the deep sadness of my situation with my daughter, it’s a little harder than it has been. But it’s probably the first really sad time I’ve experienced since I stopped smoking. My guess is these feelings may come up whenever an old/new emotion comes into play.
I feel that I’m about 75% rid of my need to smoke, but only half way through the program. I still have 3 stages, and that’s a lot of stages. My other hope is that, like the other subs I’ve used, this one will ruminate more and more in my subconscious after I stop using it. I may just be the type of person who will need to listen to stage 7 every six months or so, who knows? I hope not and I will be using the fear sub in the future, so that may help with this cause also.
And you’re right, quitting smoking isn’t hard. It’s dealing with the thoughts about it, that for me, never seem to go away, that is what's hard.
I think I’m on a different level than others that have used your program. I believe myself to be more with the group of people that we’ve both encountered whom don’t wish to stop, really. What I have seen in most of my experience of successful quit smokers, is it’s usually the first try. Those of us that struggle have made it more of a trial and error type of situation, with the failures writing our history as well as much of our future. It would be interesting for me to know of the quitters you mentioned, how many times they’ve tried to quit, how much they’ve smoked and for how long. I think it all makes a difference and may possibly be why it’s harder for one person more than another. Another point, is that it’s been with me for every single emotion that I’ve encountered. It’s similar to being married for a very long time and then not. There’s an incompleteness that I feel.
I think the hardest part is the psychological part. I compare it to being an alcoholic. They never stop being an alcoholic, they just don’t drink. I may always be a smoker, that just doesn’t smoke.
I don’t want you think I’m struggling to the point of giving in yet, because I’m not. My acknowledged fear at this point, is that what I feel, feels very familiar. It just feels like I’m taking a break. I think that was something I told myself to get through other times that I had stopped. I think the program at this point is giving me the will power to choose not to smoke. Right now, because of the deep sadness of my situation with my daughter, it’s a little harder than it has been. But it’s probably the first really sad time I’ve experienced since I stopped smoking. My guess is these feelings may come up whenever an old/new emotion comes into play.
I feel that I’m about 75% rid of my need to smoke, but only half way through the program. I still have 3 stages, and that’s a lot of stages. My other hope is that, like the other subs I’ve used, this one will ruminate more and more in my subconscious after I stop using it. I may just be the type of person who will need to listen to stage 7 every six months or so, who knows? I hope not and I will be using the fear sub in the future, so that may help with this cause also.
And you’re right, quitting smoking isn’t hard. It’s dealing with the thoughts about it, that for me, never seem to go away, that is what's hard.
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