Self Confidence/self Esteem

[smoothsam]

hi Sam

I finished 90 days of OGSF a few weeks ago and have been doing ASC for 2 weeks now

I have written some posts about my experience, what happened with AM 5.0 was that stage 1 made me confident I spoke louder and more often, my body language changed I walked with more confidence. these changes were very encouraging so onto stage 2 depression sets in so go through the stages and towards the last few stages the depression becomes less till eventually its gone but my confidence has not changed in fact it was a very neutral experience for me.

OGSF felt depressed at the beginning almost to the point of tears sometimes so as I progressed the depression seemed to have faded I became a little more confident but only slightly no where near to where I want to get.

that's why I moved onto ASC but 2 weeks into that not really noticed anything yet but still there is a long time to go

1. Self-confidence

There are two aspects of self-confidence: the first is competence, whether or not you have the necessary skills and abilities to complete a task. The second is self-assurance and whether or not you believe that you have the ability to complete the task.
True self-confidence occurs when competence and self-assurance are in balance with each other, which means when an individual is honest with him or herself. In the business world, self-confidence helps to see the positive light in situations. It enables an employee to recover from setbacks and challenges and continue to move forward.



2. Self-esteem

Self-esteem can be defined as “the capacity to experience maximal self-love and joy whether or not you are successful at any point in your life”. People with self-esteem can jump up from failure and accept that it is simply a hurdle. However, most people will experience loss of self-esteem when they face a negative situation and unfortunately, those who already have low self-esteem will also experience the largest reduction in what little self-esteem they have. This happens if they face failure, criticism, or roadblocks.



3. Self-efficacy

Self-efficacy is tricky to define. It is related to our judgments about our own capabilities and what we believe we are or are not able to do with those capabilities. The more a person is tested by facing their fears and stepping outside of their comfort zones, the more they will enhance their sense of self-efficacy. Here, courage is the key, which then leads to success. Indeed, the greater your self-efficacy, the more willing you will be to grow your own skills by attempting new challenges – and the less you will be affected if you don’t succeed.

There are times when it seems hard to compete or to take on new challenges which could lead to failures. This requires a change of attitude and a new type of courage which tells the brain that a failure always turns into a lesson and that you can’t judge until you try!


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I agree wholeheartedly about stepping outside your comfort zone. Maybe "Seek the challenge" is what you are looking for.

Attempting New Challenges = the less you will be affected if you don't succeed.

Remember this: Every master was once a disaster. Learn from all experiences. Adapt and succeed. Besides life would be boring if there wasn't any challenges.

Someone once told me they don't like me. I told them good. I'm not here on this planet for you. I'm on this planet for me. The person started laughing. We became friends.

Remember this: Practice makes the master. Experience is the best teacher.

We are all learning. Make the most of it.

I hope I've helped. If not, at least I've learned many things from what you have posted so far. I congratulate you on completing OGSF for 90 days. I hope I can manage to do it for all 6 stages. You have shown me that it can be done for 90 days. I am inspired to do it for at least 90 days. I will not give up since you have shown me that it can be done.

Thanks,

smoothsam