Overcoming Fear v.3 - 5.75.7G - Ampers&d's Journal

[abundance]

Can recommend Letting Go by David R. Hawkins, such as his other pieces of work as well!

[Ampersnd]

Can recommend Letting Go by David R. Hawkins, such as his other pieces of work as well!

I own that book and his Power vs. Force. Haven't read them in several years.

[Ampersnd]

Can recommend Letting Go by David R. Hawkins, such as his other pieces of work as well!

I own that book and his Power vs. Force. Haven't read them in several years.

[LionMonkey]

I can recommend dr. Joe Dispenzas work for transformative meditations.

Hope you are doing well!!

-LM

[Ampersnd]

Day 59, T-Minus 122 days until end 2nd day ON,

Starting running 4 loops overnight.

[Ampersnd]

Day 62, T-Minus 119 days until end, Day Off,

Officially 1/3rd of the way through the course.
Noticing that I am rapidly approaching the end of my coding bootcamp and I'm not feeling anxious about the big project.

I also finally pulled the trigger on acquiring a second monitor to share with my desktop and laptop; the complications I held about it was that I would have to buy a number of things to allow this cross-sharing; extra cables, two desk mounts, and a miniDisplayPort splitter to direct from my laptop. I predict some serious productivity increases as a result of optimizing my desk space.

[Ampersnd]

Day 63, T-Minus 118 days until end,

I've nudged up against a couple of more core issues.
I believe that due to fear, I'm hanging on to resentment against people that I believe who've wronged me.
I'm hanging on due to the fear that letting go would mean that I'm no longer able to tally a score and hold it against those bad bad people.

Often times, the "wrong" I've felt was a result of people making decisions independent on me being a real presence in their life.
I've held a lot of crushes on women growing up, and it was never reciprocated; as I become more successful, my inner thoughts resist treating women, especially attractive women, with automatic kindness. The inner monologue is: "They never gave a fuck about how I felt, so why the fuck should I return the favor now that the tables have turned?" If that makes sense.

These feelings have flared up recently and I believe will intensity before they heal.

[GreekGod22]

Can recommend Letting Go by David R. Hawkins, such as his other pieces of work as well!

I own that book and his Power vs. Force. Haven't read them in several years.

Letting Go is the only one anyone need. If you understand and apply it, it can be life-changing.

[SouthPaw]

I think David hawkins letting go book is bs. I read it years ago and as I remember it itwas just examples of how letting go is great but no clear method of HOW to do it. The sedona method is much better although not always easy to apply. IT'S NOT EASY TO LET GO.

Edit: Thanks for the negative rep, gg. Its creepy behaviour but red looks alright.

[Shannon]

I would disagree.  Letting go is easy... once you figure out how.  That is the hard part.

Unfortunately, the Sedona method has issues.  Ben can tell you more about that.

[Chris P. Bacon]

I would disagree.  Letting go is easy... once you figure out how.  That is the hard part.

Unfortunately, the Sedona method has issues.  Ben can tell you more about that.

I would very much like to hear your thoughts on how to develop your ability to let go. I struggle with this personally and would like to change that.

[Z-Man]

I would disagree.  Letting go is easy... once you figure out how.  That is the hard part.

Unfortunately, the Sedona method has issues.  Ben can tell you more about that.

I would very much like to hear your thoughts on how to develop your ability to let go. I struggle with this personally and would like to change that.

I know how you feel Bacon. letting go is hard for me too. They say forgiveness is easy too. Accepting your past and living in the moment.

[Shannon]

Letting go requires a conscious awareness of the act of "holding on". It becomes easy once you have that awareness, and the understanding that letting go is better. The difficult part is that most of the "holding on" happens below the conscious level of awareness, so it requires contemplation and introspection, sometimes meditation, to find and understand that issue that is being held onto and understand why and then work to let go.

I have done this, and I know it works. It's basically a process of becoming more self aware. For me the first time I ever did it was when I began looking around me and realizing that nobody else was as emotionally sensitive as I was. It was a realization that I was the outlier, that others did not get hurt at and cry over all the things that hurt me and made me cry. So I started observing them and comparing them to myself, and after a while I came to realize that the difference was that I was taking everything too personally. I was holding onto a belief that everything was a personal interaction, when it was not. Those people who didn't get hurt, didn't take things personally. So I had to learn how to stop taking things personally by changing my belief that everything was personal, and change my point of view. I had to learn how to stop caring, stop connecting my emotions to everything.

I imagine it was a hold-over from when I was very young, and I just presumed that everything was personal all the time at the age of 2-3-4. But when I figured this out (around 10-11, I think) it didn't work anymore. There were a lot more people than that 2-3-4 year old had to deal with, and the world had changed. I had to change with it, because I realized that taking everything personally was a misunderstanding. I started off assuming that everyone was as close as my family, and I could be as open and vulnerable with everyone. Then I got hurt a lot as a kid doing that. Eventually I realized the discrepancy between me and everyone around me and figured this out.

But letting go was difficult because I had to understand that I was holding on to something, and what I was holding on to. I had to understand that it didn't work for me, and choose something else.

[LionMonkey]

Letting go requires a conscious awareness of the act of "holding on".  It becomes easy once you have that awareness, and the understanding that letting go is better.  The difficult part is that most of the "holding on" happens below the conscious level of awareness, so it requires contemplation and introspection, sometimes meditation, to find and understand that issue that is being held onto and understand why and then work to let go.

I have done this, and I know it works.  It's basically a process of becoming more self aware.  For me the first time I ever did it was when I began looking around me and realizing that nobody else was as emotionally sensitive as I was.  It was a realization that I was the outlier, that others did not get hurt at and cry over all the things that hurt me and made me cry.  So I started observing them and comparing them to myself, and after a while I came to realize that the difference was that I was taking everything too personally.  I was holding onto a belief that everything was a personal interaction, when it was not.  Those people who didn't get hurt, didn't take things personally.  So I had to learn how to stop taking things personally by changing my belief that everything was personal, and change my point of view.  I had to learn how to stop caring, stop connecting my emotions to everything.  

I imagine it was a hold-over from when I was very young, and I just presumed that everything was personal all the time at the age of 2-3-4.  But when I figured this out (around 10-11, I think) it didn't work anymore.  There were a lot more people than that 2-3-4 year old had to deal with, and the world had changed.  I had to change with it, because I realized that taking everything personally was a misunderstanding.  I started off assuming that everyone was as close as my family, and I could be as open and vulnerable with everyone.  Then I got hurt a lot as a kid doing that.  Eventually I realized the discrepancy between me and everyone around me and figured this out.

But letting go was difficult because I had to understand that I was holding on to something, and what I was holding on to.  I had to understand that it didn't work for me, and choose something else.

That's funny.
I've had similar beliefs.
But also at older ages like late teens and early twenties.

I just felt very hurt and disempowered when I would meet chicks and they wouldn't want me.
The same with guys I just met, I had the belief that guys are my friends, my brothers, I was very vulnerable and they would ignore me and I felt shit.
Humiliating sometimes.
It was some very disempowering experiences.

Eventually, somehow I became more "arrogant" and I stopped seeking rapport as much.
Sometimes I fall into the trap/old belief and I catch myself doing it.

And then just take a moment to ground myself again.
Worked well for me!