08-09-2015, 02:39 PM
(This post was last modified: 08-09-2015, 02:42 PM by Dilettante.)
i'd like to chip my two cents in about AA:
1) it would be a good sub if built.
2) a good bootcamp instruction (& experiences) also helps & could be an equivalent of the 5g oaa.
i had approach anxiety before. i took two bootcamps (one was a day approach camp) & by the end of the 2nd bootcamp, i dont really have a problem with approaching on the street.
what i learned in my bootcamps is that most women like sincere compliments. the rest of the approach can be shit but if you get nothing but the opener right (approach & compliment) then you'll at least get a receptive girl (which buys you about 5 to 10 seconds).
in fact thats a warm up technique where u approach three random girls & compliment them on something unique & specific that caught your eye. after the compliment, i just go have an awesome day & eject.
physiologically, i think our minds are anticipating blowback from the compliment (bitchy lahshing out or something). i've conditioned myself to know no such lashing out will occur (havent had one - other than them giving me the creeped out look, which i take as a hint to not go further - in those instances, either i was not calibrated on approach or my approach angle was wrong easily correctable).
that said, i have stopped approaching due to a lack of things to say. most of my day approaches are pretty mediocre and the girls just leave or i self eject due to running out of topics. the girls just go, bye felisha (or is it bye felipe?).
i learned quickly about target selection (who will be willing to give me more than 10 sec) as well as having 'mones support my approaches (makes a difference of 1 min convo vs 5 min convo).
im not perfect nor am i even any good. ive retreated for now to focus on what to say on the approach. i finished taking an improv class (which sharpened my yes, and plus my risk taking skills) and are now taking stand up classes to improv my banter, riffing, & joke-pulling-from-observation abilities.
i guess im saying that as long as a compliment is stated well by a confident guy during a confident approach, nothing will go wrong. we just have to neurologically experience the shock of approach enough times to numb the mind.
1) it would be a good sub if built.
2) a good bootcamp instruction (& experiences) also helps & could be an equivalent of the 5g oaa.
i had approach anxiety before. i took two bootcamps (one was a day approach camp) & by the end of the 2nd bootcamp, i dont really have a problem with approaching on the street.
what i learned in my bootcamps is that most women like sincere compliments. the rest of the approach can be shit but if you get nothing but the opener right (approach & compliment) then you'll at least get a receptive girl (which buys you about 5 to 10 seconds).
in fact thats a warm up technique where u approach three random girls & compliment them on something unique & specific that caught your eye. after the compliment, i just go have an awesome day & eject.
physiologically, i think our minds are anticipating blowback from the compliment (bitchy lahshing out or something). i've conditioned myself to know no such lashing out will occur (havent had one - other than them giving me the creeped out look, which i take as a hint to not go further - in those instances, either i was not calibrated on approach or my approach angle was wrong easily correctable).
that said, i have stopped approaching due to a lack of things to say. most of my day approaches are pretty mediocre and the girls just leave or i self eject due to running out of topics. the girls just go, bye felisha (or is it bye felipe?).
i learned quickly about target selection (who will be willing to give me more than 10 sec) as well as having 'mones support my approaches (makes a difference of 1 min convo vs 5 min convo).
im not perfect nor am i even any good. ive retreated for now to focus on what to say on the approach. i finished taking an improv class (which sharpened my yes, and plus my risk taking skills) and are now taking stand up classes to improv my banter, riffing, & joke-pulling-from-observation abilities.
i guess im saying that as long as a compliment is stated well by a confident guy during a confident approach, nothing will go wrong. we just have to neurologically experience the shock of approach enough times to numb the mind.
