07-09-2010, 06:47 PM
Leo, I do cold approaches regularly. I feel more relaxed, less worried about what to say or what impact I'm having. Find myself just saying hi, no lines, no having to ask how their night is (I ask that question later). Hi comes across as harder because you're kind of saying 'here I am, take me for what I am'. Completely open and you're not putting her in a position where she has to respond. If the first thing we ask is a question it's guaranteed to get a response.
I don't think I've had any major successes through my cold approaches but the simple fact is it's still a numbers game, just that the numbers are slightly favoured to us. I also find myself more dominant and confident. Last night I wanted to get to some free couches so I walked straight through the bar line, confidently not aggressively. And they moved pretty easily for me. I would normally go through the line but I'd be more apologetic like 'sorry but I have to go through you' whereas now.
I did get a number last night, I went back and she seemed interested to talk to me. And she saved my ass slightly haha. I was focused on her and didn't realise I stepped in front of a girl who was in the line and she asked the girl I was talking to if I was with them and she said yes. She gave me her number so see what happens.
Had a girl who was obviously interested but had a boyfriend. I used my standard line which was 'hey at least I tried' and she told me she was flattered.
Had another one who had a boyfriend but kind winced apologetically when she told me.
And yes I approach regularly without eye contact. I even approached a girl who looked drop-dead gorgeous from the back but wasn't attractive. Even my wing girl thought I was going for one of the extreme hotties lol. Actually don't get a lot of eye contact in bars. Although this other female friend mentioned one guy that walked in and she was like 'he owned the room'. That's what I want haha.
Will write something more elaborate later, off to meet friends soon.
I don't think I've had any major successes through my cold approaches but the simple fact is it's still a numbers game, just that the numbers are slightly favoured to us. I also find myself more dominant and confident. Last night I wanted to get to some free couches so I walked straight through the bar line, confidently not aggressively. And they moved pretty easily for me. I would normally go through the line but I'd be more apologetic like 'sorry but I have to go through you' whereas now.
I did get a number last night, I went back and she seemed interested to talk to me. And she saved my ass slightly haha. I was focused on her and didn't realise I stepped in front of a girl who was in the line and she asked the girl I was talking to if I was with them and she said yes. She gave me her number so see what happens.
Had a girl who was obviously interested but had a boyfriend. I used my standard line which was 'hey at least I tried' and she told me she was flattered.
Had another one who had a boyfriend but kind winced apologetically when she told me.
And yes I approach regularly without eye contact. I even approached a girl who looked drop-dead gorgeous from the back but wasn't attractive. Even my wing girl thought I was going for one of the extreme hotties lol. Actually don't get a lot of eye contact in bars. Although this other female friend mentioned one guy that walked in and she was like 'he owned the room'. That's what I want haha.
Will write something more elaborate later, off to meet friends soon.
