07-18-2013, 09:41 AM
DAY 12 - DAYTIME - Reflection & social intuition and awareness
I notice some interesting things when I'm out. My mother wanted to accompany me with my studies and is kind of clingy to me, which sucks because I'm not meeting any girls when she's with me but.. I do love her.
At the bookstore there were a group of 3 people, 2 girls, 1 guy sitting across us. The sub-communication the blonde and I exchanged was interesting. She wasn't very confident but she definitely spoke the language and was not afraid to speak it when opportunities arose.
When me and my mother was waiting for my brother outside Starbucks, I noticed a western guy approach 3 Chinese women almost right in front of me.
He lacked social skills and his body-language became weak after the initial approach. He leaned in with his ear for example, which signals "I'm not enough".
Kudos for him having balls to do it though.
One of the girls whispered something to the other one, who was not talking to the guy and looked at me while I observed this scenario.
It was very interesting to see because I've been that guy! and how much it has changed, where now the girls often become nervous or very attentive when I approach rather than, "ohh.. just a harmless boy".
It's pretty much the same kind of thing as back when I was practicing kung-fu. I remember when I had been training for 2-3 years and I had moments where I thought "it's all the same… what's next?"
Then not many sessions after, we had a mixed session with the beginners and sparred with them and I noticed the HUGE difference. I could play with them and I was very much in control of the outcome.
It's difficult to notice your own change because you play the game by the level you are at (if you improve every day) to see a beginner is like a nostalgic, fun flashback of yourself...
I notice some interesting things when I'm out. My mother wanted to accompany me with my studies and is kind of clingy to me, which sucks because I'm not meeting any girls when she's with me but.. I do love her.
At the bookstore there were a group of 3 people, 2 girls, 1 guy sitting across us. The sub-communication the blonde and I exchanged was interesting. She wasn't very confident but she definitely spoke the language and was not afraid to speak it when opportunities arose.
When me and my mother was waiting for my brother outside Starbucks, I noticed a western guy approach 3 Chinese women almost right in front of me.
He lacked social skills and his body-language became weak after the initial approach. He leaned in with his ear for example, which signals "I'm not enough".
Kudos for him having balls to do it though.
One of the girls whispered something to the other one, who was not talking to the guy and looked at me while I observed this scenario.
It was very interesting to see because I've been that guy! and how much it has changed, where now the girls often become nervous or very attentive when I approach rather than, "ohh.. just a harmless boy".
It's pretty much the same kind of thing as back when I was practicing kung-fu. I remember when I had been training for 2-3 years and I had moments where I thought "it's all the same… what's next?"
Then not many sessions after, we had a mixed session with the beginners and sparred with them and I noticed the HUGE difference. I could play with them and I was very much in control of the outcome.
It's difficult to notice your own change because you play the game by the level you are at (if you improve every day) to see a beginner is like a nostalgic, fun flashback of yourself...
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
