Attract Your Perfect Wife

[Shannon]

The concept of perfect is defined deep within you, and in ways that may surprise you. Regardless of where you are in your journey, you can attract your perfect whatever, if you follow the instructions and there are no circumstances outside of your (or my) control that prevent it - such as, she is married, etc. (which should not necessarily stop it, but may require significantly more time to achieve the goal).

Perfect, however, may be different depending on your level of self refinement and growth. A woman who would have been perfect for me before I started self improvement all those years ago, would not be even close to even tolerable for me now. It required some self improvement before the "perfect lover" I called to me was even willing to be with me, as I met her 2 years before we started dating, and she refused me because I was "too nice". Now, I am unable to do a relationship with the limitations that would be imposed if I tried to be with her again, although we do love one another genuinely and the sex is still amazing. But my perfect lover is not the same woman anymore, as I have grown past the lessons the last one had for me. That of course deals with the limits of the perfect lover definition; sure, we are and always will be irresistibly sexually attracted, and sex will always be amazing with her, but we cannot be happy in a long term relationship because we constantly conflict on things aside from sex.

I am coming to believe that for each stage of your personal growth, there is a different "perfect", and each one has something to do with helping you grow. If you grow together, then she will stay perfect; if not, then she will not. It depends on what you are asking for. I made the mistake of asking for a relationship based entirely on sexual compatibility when I asked for my perfect lover, and that is what killed our relationship.

What is your perfect wife now, may be very different than what is your perfect wife in ten years. As I said before, if you meet and marry your current perfect wife, and you grow together, she will stay perfect. But the more you advance yourself before you meet, the better you will get from the get-go. I suggest some serious self improvement before you run an AYP program, because you want to make yourself worthy of the best option you possibly can.