10-24-2014, 09:57 AM
(10-23-2014, 11:23 AM)Adri Wrote:---- Stage 2 ----Day 33
I need some recommendation if someone has experience with that type of situation: I had a drink with the guy I said who is really into me. Went great but I feel he wants to make things move further, which is not something I want. He wants to get another drink with me next week.
How can I stop him right in his trajectory? I don't want to hurt his feelings, he's a really nice guy and we would really be a good friendship match.
The only solutions I have on my mind are:
(1) I tell him I'm not interested but that of course I want to remain friend with him or
(2) I make him understand in a subtle way by asking him if he's got someone on his mind at the moment.
-If he tells me yes, I ask him who. If he responds that this person is me, I stop him and tell him I didn't thought about our relationship in that way.
-If he responds no, I ask him if there are no handsome guys at his school, thus dequalifying myself as a potential partner.
What do you think about those approaches? Which one would you recommend? Have you got other suggestions? it's the first time I am faced with that type of situation
That's it, hope stage 2 will be even more great
-Adri
It's hard to call but if I was in that situation with a woman I would probably act all excited over some new woman I've met that week that I'm really hoping turns into a relationship. It should put any one off if they know your affections lie elsewhere.
Option 2 might work but unless you make it clear that you're not interested he might think the chase is on!
