10-23-2014, 11:23 AM
---- Stage 2 ----
Day 33OK this first month has been awesome. Here are the results I've got so far:
- I am very sociable with everybody. Still have approach anxiety for some guys because I cannot find ways to start an interaction with them while respecting "social norms".
- I have 3 potential guys that want me! Never had so much guys into me at one point in time.
The 1st one is obvious he wants me. But the problem is I do not like him sexually. He would make a good friend though. Another guy is a friend of one of my friend (she's trying to make us go out together
). And the last one is a guy that is in the same class than me. He looks at me furtively and he likes everything I post on the FB group of our class. Haven't spoken to him yet but I am attracted to him. I need to find a way to start interacting with him.
- Self-love! this is amazing. I cannot not say to people how awesome I am. I do it in a non-jerk way of course, more on a funny tone, it's just an effect of self-confidence I think. And people love it apparently, which is great.
- I think about sex and men all the time. All my discussions go back to sex and men in one way or another.
- My work at University is taking a hit because I value my social life more than the work I need to do. I am trying to rebalance the both because if I do not do it, I may fail my semester, which is not something nice.
I need some recommendation if someone has experience with that type of situation: I had a drink with the guy I said who is really into me. Went great but I feel he wants to make things move further, which is not something I want. He wants to get another drink with me next week.
How can I stop him right in his trajectory? I don't want to hurt his feelings, he's a really nice guy and we would really be a good friendship match.
The only solutions I have on my mind are:
(1) I tell him I'm not interested but that of course I want to remain friend with him or
(2) I make him understand in a subtle way by asking him if he's got someone on his mind at the moment.
-If he tells me yes, I ask him who. If he responds that this person is me, I stop him and tell him I didn't thought about our relationship in that way.
-If he responds no, I ask him if there are no handsome guys at his school, thus dequalifying myself as a potential partner.
What do you think about those approaches? Which one would you recommend? Have you got other suggestions? it's the first time I am faced with that type of situation
That's it, hope stage 2 will be even more great
-Adri
