05-29-2014, 12:13 PM
Hi risingwarrior, and thank you. I'll be the big 45 next week, so I definitely am not benefiting by age! I'm into week 4 of BIATBW. Previously, I did the straight 32 days of AOS (and, for a short time, AYPSL, which I stopped after having a random run-in with a woman I was dating for a while ... briefly, I had no intention of "re"manifesting this chick in my life!)
As I understand it now, people are advised to take breaks between programs. Realizing that it retrospect, I have been listening nightly (silent subliminal) to one of the three for a little over 2 months. Where I live and my present (lack of) work situation are not particularly conducive to my meeting "eligible" women. Most of the women I meet are just out of school, or are already hitched and settled. Add to that, I lost my two best wingmen!
All that said, I was faced with a similar dilemma: what can someone do to facilitate the progress? How can one create opportunities or push oneself forward? A few weeks into listening to the first sub, I could feel things happening: I was sleeping more, but waking tired. Also, I spent a good bit of time just feeling as though I'd spent hours cramming for final exams years ago. At some point, that passed (although it does on occasion return). Notably, I felt my mood lifting in spite of some hard knocks the previous year and a half, and began to feel more comfortable in my own skin for the first time in a good while. To a point, this has been general, a sense of emerging from some hard times. However, without question the biggest changes have been with women, particularly younger women, and I really don't thing I'm doing anything different otherwise (not consciously). To give you one concrete example, I was away this past weekend visiting my children. I arrived at the hotel after a long (fun, but long night, preceded by a very long drive). After checking in, I talked a little with the concierge, who was a very sweet, very cute gal, who upgraded my room and gave me a gift cert for breakfast for the next morning. It was just nice. There's been quite a bit of stuff like that too, and it seems to build on itself. In one sense, it's like I'm back to my old self in a way, only this time with a clue!
On the flip side, one thing that seems to derail me, anyway, are people or situations from my not-so-distant past. A couple of weeks ago, I went out with some old friends from my previous job -- good people, but too many reminders of a situation I'd like to forget. To put it one way, I've come to appreciate finally what I've read in the forums about releasing the past (de-conditioning, as it were), mundane as the past might appear to be. Any kind of preoccupation is going to put distance between two people, and (not that this is in any way an earth-shaking revelation) I expect being open/available is in itself is a very attractive quality in a guy of any age.
Reading what I wrote, I'm thinking I this is probably obvious to everyone already! Been like learning to walk again for me in some ways. I've elected to keep with this for at least two more months, keeping my eyes open, of course, but anticipating a more gradual progression. All the best, Tim
As I understand it now, people are advised to take breaks between programs. Realizing that it retrospect, I have been listening nightly (silent subliminal) to one of the three for a little over 2 months. Where I live and my present (lack of) work situation are not particularly conducive to my meeting "eligible" women. Most of the women I meet are just out of school, or are already hitched and settled. Add to that, I lost my two best wingmen!
All that said, I was faced with a similar dilemma: what can someone do to facilitate the progress? How can one create opportunities or push oneself forward? A few weeks into listening to the first sub, I could feel things happening: I was sleeping more, but waking tired. Also, I spent a good bit of time just feeling as though I'd spent hours cramming for final exams years ago. At some point, that passed (although it does on occasion return). Notably, I felt my mood lifting in spite of some hard knocks the previous year and a half, and began to feel more comfortable in my own skin for the first time in a good while. To a point, this has been general, a sense of emerging from some hard times. However, without question the biggest changes have been with women, particularly younger women, and I really don't thing I'm doing anything different otherwise (not consciously). To give you one concrete example, I was away this past weekend visiting my children. I arrived at the hotel after a long (fun, but long night, preceded by a very long drive). After checking in, I talked a little with the concierge, who was a very sweet, very cute gal, who upgraded my room and gave me a gift cert for breakfast for the next morning. It was just nice. There's been quite a bit of stuff like that too, and it seems to build on itself. In one sense, it's like I'm back to my old self in a way, only this time with a clue!
On the flip side, one thing that seems to derail me, anyway, are people or situations from my not-so-distant past. A couple of weeks ago, I went out with some old friends from my previous job -- good people, but too many reminders of a situation I'd like to forget. To put it one way, I've come to appreciate finally what I've read in the forums about releasing the past (de-conditioning, as it were), mundane as the past might appear to be. Any kind of preoccupation is going to put distance between two people, and (not that this is in any way an earth-shaking revelation) I expect being open/available is in itself is a very attractive quality in a guy of any age.
Reading what I wrote, I'm thinking I this is probably obvious to everyone already! Been like learning to walk again for me in some ways. I've elected to keep with this for at least two more months, keeping my eyes open, of course, but anticipating a more gradual progression. All the best, Tim
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