I kind of have the almost opposite problem. Although I DO want to meet and be with the love of my life whoever HE is, I also actually love going out on dates for its own sake. Going out somewhere - even if just for a coffee or drink with a handsome man, chatting, having a laugh and flirting is a joy to me. And I don't want to stick to dating one guy unless I think he is a dream man one and we are a very VERY good match. But I think when I say things in my profile like I want to go out on dates such as drinks and coffees with handsome men that for some reason a lot of men interpret that as "I want to get laid." Sometimes I DO want that but other times I just want to go out on a date! Just a date. Not a hook up. I don't want to make it sound like I am looking for a relationship when I feel I am not ready for one but nor am I wanting one hook up after another, like I said I am both very sexual AND very romantic and I need both. It's almost gotten to the point where I think SHOULD I be so honest or should I lie and pretend I AM boyfriend shopping right now just so they slow down! It's like guys either want a girlfriend or a hook up but I want to be heck not even wined and dined though I'd love that even just go out for more coffees with hunks & chat rather than this whole ooh baby let's have sex. It's like it's either let's have sex or they are looking for the One right here right now whereas I am more of a let's wait and see person, let's actually MEET first and THEN see what we want. Not assume we are gonna have sex right off the bat OR have a love relationship let's just meet and chat and THEN start to decide. You know?
But I think because I am not like I HAVE to meet my next boyfriend RIGHT NOW that I MUST be only looking for sex with anyone I want to meet and that's just not true!
I love the idea of going out on dates in the meantime. It doesn't mean I DON'T want sex but so many of them want to meet up FOR sex that's not all I want from men! So I wish I knew how to articulate this better on my profile. I actually DON'T tend to date like a job interview - though some guys who have taken me on dates have been like that with me! - but because I don't it's like they think I must want to hook up! With a guy I haven't even MET yet!
ANYWAY!
But I think because I am not like I HAVE to meet my next boyfriend RIGHT NOW that I MUST be only looking for sex with anyone I want to meet and that's just not true!
I love the idea of going out on dates in the meantime. It doesn't mean I DON'T want sex but so many of them want to meet up FOR sex that's not all I want from men! So I wish I knew how to articulate this better on my profile. I actually DON'T tend to date like a job interview - though some guys who have taken me on dates have been like that with me! - but because I don't it's like they think I must want to hook up! With a guy I haven't even MET yet!
ANYWAY!