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RE: 2020-2021 Alpha Male v.6 - Ampersnd - 04-16-2021
Stage 6, Day 15
I've been sitting on this for a few days now.
I thought about creating a video for this but I'd rather type it out so that I can have control over the wording.
Nine Reasons Why You Should Eradicate Fear
Fear is the Source of (Almost) All Negative Emotions
You name it; if there's a negative emotion, there is likely fear behind it.
Insecurity = a worry that a feature about yourself will be exploited or revealed.
Jealousy/Envy = Anger towards other people for fear that you will be unable to attain them yourself.
Anxiety = Fear that a potential future will be realized
Worry = Similar to anxiety
Procrastination = A delaying of action for fear of wasting your energy in futility
Fear is the Distorter of Reality
The fear of faraway potential outcomes will occupy your thoughts and emotions. They dry up your available resources. You not only have a money budget, but a thought budget; suppose you have 10,000 thoughts per day, but you spend 4,000 of those thoughts worrying or anxious about things not only out of your control, but also unlikely to happen. In this example, only 60% of your thoughts and emotions are available.
In reality, every single one of your thoughts and feelings are colored with fear in some way. If you are too ambitious or out of your element, your mind will generate fears to talk yourself down, and back to normal.
Fear is the Bungie Cord Pulling Your Towards Complacency
For a long time, I've been willing to do things outside of my comfort zone, but anytime I've done so, there was always a pull to cut it short and return to normalcy. A physical analogy to this feeling is the carnival game where you're attached to a bungie cord and have to ring a bell 30-45 feet away. The closer you get, the more the cord pulls at you. You cannot push forward forever.
While in a state of fear, the mind seeks resolution; it does not want to be in fear forever. And so, it will latch to anything that presents itself as a conclusion to your fear. For example, you want to break out of your shell and go to the bar, vowing to speak to 20 new people. But once you enter a comfortable conversation, you might quickly abandon the goal of meeting new people (i.e., re-entering the uncomfortable chaos of the bar) and continue the good-feeling discussion.
I've attended language learning Meetup groups; you are meant to speak with others in foreign languages. They VERY quickly devolve into English-language complaint-fests about how your target language is difficult. We are collectively unwilling to go through the discomfort of translating our thoughts into the target language, and expending the required energy to do so.
When you live in fear, you will proverbially "cash out" sooner than you should, and for the wrong reasons. You will stay stuck at a dead-end career because you can't bear the thought of the stressful interview process. You will wind up dating a 6/10 and marrying her because the thought of re-entering the dating market is an even worse feeling.
The strategy of "massive action" alone is likely ineffective, as you're simply vowing to run "harder" against the same bungie cord that's held you back so many times before. The promise is hollow, as you're only making these statements when you DON'T have 200 lbs pulling at your back.
Forward motion, done more quickly, will only generate more fear-based thoughts, eating up more emotional and thinking resources. It will run you ragged if you're not equipped for it. It will cost you sleep. It might weaken your immune system and make you sick.
Fear is the Robber of Dreams
Accomplishing a major goal requires dedicated efforts towards a specific set of actions, usually for several uninterrupted months and years; this is undone when fear sabotages this accomplishment by lengthening the decision-making process, introducing endless steps, or undermining the journeyman's will to succeed.
The "someday maybe" goals exist because they exist beyond the realm of a latent fear; the fear acts as the guard dog, standing between the person and their objective. I've been told countless times from Anglophones that they want to learn French, but "never got around to it". They are likely struggling with i) the fear of expending effort with nothing to show for it, ii) the fear of appearing foolish when speaking a foreign language, or iii) the fear of humbling themselves by assuming the complete beginner's role in something new.
Even if you do undertake a goal, the actions you take only take place in the context of what your unconscious mind deems "acceptable" (i.e., actions which do not provoke fear within you). This means that you are unwilling to take the steps which are, by all probability, the highest leverage and results-generating actions.
One can avoid these high-leverage actions by proclaiming that they are in a perpetual "preparation phase". They are still busy and keeping occupied, but it is a massive distraction from what is actually important. A beginner entrepreneur can change the fine print of his packaging all he wishes, but at the end of the day, he must pick up the phone and make cold calls (depending on the niche). Any action which pulls him away from the main directive is likely done as a function of his fears surrounding cold calls.
A musician can practice endlessly and never perform, justifying it by his need to practice further. Years can go by, and nothing has change. Or, he might practice inefficiently to pad the time.
Through the absence of fear, one can objectively decide what is most meaningful, and what generates the highest results, and ruthlessly go do that for hours without excuse.
Fear Keeps Your From Greatness
All great inventors, thinkers, artists, explorers, and politicians reached their lot by transcending the existing order and paradigms. They had the courage to venture - whether physically or mentally - beyond the socially-accepted bounds. Breaching these bounds means inviting attention, scorn, distain, and disapproval from the masses. We might claim to not care about their opinions, but the state of our lives (i.e., the results of your life, on paper) often beg to differ.
Read this article carefully, and with the above concepts in mind.
https://www.woujo.com/blog/2017/1/5/how-to-be-a-transcendent-man
Sure, there are some chauvinist ideas in this article that you're free to disagree with. But, the article is very informational by the following points:
[*]- Our social norms have been established by the 'alpha' of the group; typically the alpha males
[*]- We implicitly violate the will of these 'alphas' when we breach their norms;
[*]- We are often rearranging our lives to placate and avoid their anger.
[*]- Women (and people in general) try to invoke social norms to discourage your eccentric behavior
[*]- Once your vision of the world is undeniable, it becomes accepted and is integrated as part of the norm
Fear is the Shepard Dog of the Masses
Do too well, and you'll start feeling guilty and anxious. Do too poorly, and you'll feel the same, but in different ways. We are often corralled into the middle.
Self-improvement circles often bring up the "thermostat analogy"; if a room's thermostat is set to 72 Farrenheit, it will kick on when the temperature falls below that number, and turn off when the temperature is higher.
In our lives, doing either better or worse than our current state invites a set of fears and anxieties, real or imagined, that scare us back into our "comfort zone". Yes, this comfort zone shifts over time, as we process these feelings.
When my income jumped from minimum wage to $60K/year on 4 days a week, I felt a variety of emotions; I felt like an imposter, I worried a ton about making a mistake, and I worried about random things. It took me over a year to process these emotions and to feel deserving of even more than $60K, which eventually happened.
It's much like the story of the broke loser who scratches a winning lottery ticket, wins millions, and then is back to broke after a couple years. They are not given the time to process the feelings associated with wealth; along with their vices and the new target on their back, they are apt to make bad decisions.
The point of this point is that any fear within you makes you controllable; more fears equal a larger number of emotional appeals which "push your buttons" and, if nothing else, add to the negative feelings in your life.
Marketers and politicians can play on these fears - the fear of economic collapse, fear of aging, fear of loss of sex appeal - and to morph your behaviors and buying patterns to their benefit.
Long-Term Fear Equals Physical Damage
Fear generates the stress hormone cortisol and inhibits relaxation. Over time, it causes visible damage to your skin, hair, reproductive organs, digestion, cognition, memory, sleep, and overall wellbeing.
Your Most Important Goals Generate The Most Significant Fears
The author Steven Pressfield once wrote, in The War of Art: "The more resistance you experience, the more important your unmanifested art/project/enterprise is to you - and the more gratification you will fell when you finally do it.”
This is the great paradox of life; there are things which you are, in your heart of hearts, pulled towards, but at the same time, your unconscious mind has set itself up to sabotage your efforts to accomplishing these goals.
One might argue that the purpose of life is to remove these obstacles and to fearlessly pursue what makes you happy.
Your Relationship to Fear Determines Your Relationship to Life
I will summarize by stating that your relationship to your fears determines your life outcomes; who you marry, the job you get, the income you make, the goals you accomplish, and the number of items you check off your bucket list.
When fear calls the shots, you might still accomplish things; but they are not the big, scary things that you only experience in your thoughts before bed, when your mind is not bound by the limits of crude materiality and free to explore its less-explored thoughts.
The constant tension of strong desire for a thing, mixed with an unconscious revulsion from that same thing, combined with seeing other people enjoying it, is an equation for anguish.
The obvious solution is to remove that unconscious revulsion.
And, ladies and gentlemen, that is the reason why I will be running OF v.2 after the end of this 6-stage subliminal.
RE: 2020-2021 Alpha Male v.6 - ncbeareatingman - 04-17-2021
OMG!! did you nail it ,Man!! All I can say is thank you.
I wish it were possible to run two of these amazing and remarkable subs together, as in UMSv2 & OF v2
I KNOW plenty well but I shure a heck hope and desire that the forth coming UMS v2 ,has an INDUSTRIAL strength version of FRM 4.9 to go with it, in the meantime.
OF v2 is simply a MUST,run, sub.
Thank you deeply for your very precise,clearly and steady renderings on Fear,its effects & related
It's damn near 4:30 am, and sleep ? is calling. I must re.read ur post again ,later today,even more thoroughly,as such!!
Thank you!!
RE: 2020-2021 Alpha Male v.6 - Ampersnd - 04-17-2021
Reason #10 to eradicate fear: to be as good publicly as I am privately.
When I practice guitar, I often play well and without mistakes. That goes away when I turn on the camera to record something.
RE: 2020-2021 Alpha Male v.6 - Ampersnd - 04-22-2021
Stage 6, Day 21,
On the final stretch. Can't say that this has transformed my life inside out.
I think that I'm becoming hyperaware of the ways that fear has had an impact on my life, on both the micro and macro level. I think that my fears are outweighing my 'alpha' programming, hence why I don't sense a major difference between start and finish.
My core fears:
1) Attention; for a variety of reasons, I'm fearful of having eyes on me
2) Sudden and swift violent attacks; this has not happened (i.e., mugging or getting jumped), but I'm realizing that I'm at the age (29) where I could easily be the victim of what I've seen on TV or violent movies. I often run through scenarios of home invasions or getting attacked by a bear.
3) Getting stranded. I have nightmarish visions of being trapped in a foreign country without my papers, or being on a distant snowy road and losing my keys.
I feel like these fears, especially #2 and #3, have been growing over time. It'll be nice to do away with those.
RE: 2020-2021 Alpha Male v.6 - Ampersnd - 05-01-2021
Stage 6, Day 30,
Coming on the final stretch.
I can say that AM6 has not had a similar effect to previous runs.
I've had moments where personal fears and anxieties dominated my thoughts, and I think that this run has made me much more aware of the historical reasons that my fears have emerged.
I am taking massive action towards my three main goals while working my full-time job, but this action is within the context of behaviors which aren't nerve-wracking or anxiety inducing.
I look forward to using OF v.3 to not make fear a consideration in my daily actions and goals. To remove hesitancy towards obvious actions.