jimbobdays journal

[jimbobday]

Well I've just started with subs first set now.

I've done some in the past but never stuck to them and never done them in my sleep. I've also done a lot of therapy and hypnosis in the past and continue to pursue both.

The honest truth on where I'm at at the moment

* I can chat to girls quite freely
* My Social Anxiety has gone down from what it used to be
* Have trouble living alone and being in the moment
* My self esteem is rising
* I have a fear of abandonment
* I have trouble concentrating at work and what I do probably isn't my passion
* I do have girls checking me out and smiling but approaching for me is still a struggle
* Escalation for me is very difficult
* I have goals but still have trouble sticking to them (Although I am with the gym and have lost a lot of weight)
* I drink to much coffee and I smoke (Other than that I am healthy)
* I am still hung up on my ex
* Even though people seem to like me and talk to me a lot I still believe I aren't good enough (Slowly getting rid of that belief though)
* I have moved back in with my parents at 26 years of age (I have till the end of next year to move out of there)
* I have trouble letting things go and breaking my habits and routines
* I beat myself up emotionally (This is also decreasing)

I will be using http://audioengineusa.com/Store/Audioengine-5 as the speakers for all night time listening

My goals with subs (In order)

1. Move past my relationship breakup
2. Get over my fear of abandonment
3. Alpha Male. Move to reaching all my goals and taking action instead of sitting around dreaming. including taking action to start my own business and get in the best shape of my life developing my own sense of style and do what I want to do
4. Move out of my parents house and start living my own life with new friends and new hobbies
5. Get the girls I want and concentrate on meeting healthy girls instead of the dysfunctional girls I attract at the moment
6. Have a few girls which I can have sex with on a regular basis instead of relying on a relationship. Only jump into a relationship if the girl is what I want and let that relationship develop in a healthy way
7. Have a healthy fulfilling sex life
8. Get off anti depressants
9. Buy my own house

As well as working on subs I am taking action in my life. I'm going to a therapist, I'm going to the gym 4 days a week, I'm catching up with friends that have been neglected, I'm working through abandonment workshops, I'm saving money for a house

I've given myself a 1.5 year time frame to work through these goals as this isn't going to happen overnight but it will happen. I realize this is a lot to ask from subs but with the reviews i've seen plus my perseverance I believe it can happen

So to start of my subs journey I'm using Let Go Of Past Relationships

[jimbobday]

Day 4 Let Go Of Past Relationships

Over the last 4 days I've been dreaming a lot about my ex which is something I wasn't doing before starting this sub. I realize this is most likely due to the fact that my mind is sorting things through and removing the attachment that I felt. I always knew there was going to be a lot of resistance with this one as the attachment to her is so strong. I will just ride this out.

I've also been feeling a little depressed during the day and not sleeping to well and realize this is also most likely due to the resistance and the starting of the removal of the attachment.

Its going to be a difficult couple of months moving through both this and fear of abandonment as these are two core issues and will take a lot of sorting out but I'm looking forward to getting through them and starting on AM2012

[Ryan]

You're in for some huge life changes, my friend. Welcome!

Those speakers look awesome, BTW.

Ryan

[jimbobday]

Thanks Ryan.

I read through your journal and it was actually a bit of an inspiration for me as I feel I'm coming from kind of the same starting place as you. The changes you have made are amazing and congrats on the MTV stint.

Decided it was best to invest in some decent speakers if I was going to take this seriously.

Also just for interests sake I did a Personality test and came out with ENTP a bit of a change from the INFP I used to be

James

[Shannon]

Ryan can tell you about his experiences with Seek The Challenge. He's used it.

Also, if your experience with your ex was really difficult to break away from, I suggest you use the letting go of past relationships program for 90 days. You might feel like you're done before you actually are, and then have some stuff pop back up otherwise, as I did.

Alpha Male will be helpful for abandonment issues, too, because it deals with making you emotionally healthy and self sufficient. So if I haven't had a chance to make a sub for that by the time you're done with Let Go Of Past Relationships, just start with am in the mean time. The one for overcoming abandonment issues by themselves will be Type B, so you can use them both together.

[jimbobday]

Thanks Shannon. Ill use it for 90 days. I expect a lot of resistance but Ill push through that.

Also consistency has been an issue for me in the past. I have been keeping consistent lately but there always the possibility that I slip up. So if anyone sees me trying to move onto something new or missing nights please slap me across the face and knock some sense into me

[jimbobday]

Been having all sorts of weird dreams on this sub. Last night I dreamed I was having my blood tested for drugs and they found anti-depressants very bizarre and my ex was in it as well. Not gonna read to much into it.

First night on the new speakers but unfortunately the phone I had connected up to them died during the night as the plug that I was using to charge the phone broke.

Another thing I'm trying to find out is the frequency response rate on my phone speakers (Galaxy S2) doubt it will be 20Khz but would be great if it was as I could then add listening during the day as well.

[Ryan]

Never used Seek The Challenge, Shannon I have no idea what you're talking about ;P

Ryan

[Shannon]

(12-07-2011 01:12 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  Been having all sorts of weird dreams on this sub. Last night I dreamed I was having my blood tested for drugs and they found anti-depressants very bizarre and my ex was in it as well. Not gonna read to much into it.

First night on the new speakers but unfortunately the phone I had connected up to them died during the night as the plug that I was using to charge the phone broke.

Another thing I'm trying to find out is the frequency response rate on my phone speakers (Galaxy S2) doubt it will be 20Khz but would be great if it was as I could then add listening during the day as well.

The Samsung Galaxy S II speaker can handle ultrasonics just fine. I know this, because I own that particular make and model of phone, and I use it to play subliminals for myself while I am driving. You'll want to keep the volume at 11 or less, as it begins to encounter speaker distortion otherwise... but it works just fine.

[Shannon]

(12-07-2011 01:48 PM)Ryan Wrote:  Never used Seek The Challenge, Shannon I have no idea what you're talking about ;P

Ryan

Alright, either you're messing with me or I'm working so hard I am starting to blur my memories. Who's used it? Do you remember, Ryan?

[Ryan]

I honestly didn't know about Seek the Challenge :\ I've used Carpe Diem.

Ryan

[jimbobday]

(12-07-2011 03:32 PM)Shannon Wrote:  

(12-07-2011 01:12 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  Been having all sorts of weird dreams on this sub. Last night I dreamed I was having my blood tested for drugs and they found anti-depressants very bizarre and my ex was in it as well. Not gonna read to much into it.

First night on the new speakers but unfortunately the phone I had connected up to them died during the night as the plug that I was using to charge the phone broke.

Another thing I'm trying to find out is the frequency response rate on my phone speakers (Galaxy S2) doubt it will be 20Khz but would be great if it was as I could then add listening during the day as well.

The Samsung Galaxy S II speaker can handle ultrasonics just fine. I know this, because I own that particular make and model of phone, and I use it to play subliminals for myself while I am driving. You'll want to keep the volume at 11 or less, as it begins to encounter speaker distortion otherwise... but it works just fine.

Thanks Shannon. This is one thing I have been wondering about and will mean I can get so much more time out of subs and will also mean using them while away on holiday will be so much easier

It was just I read somewhere speakers were only 800hz but I'd trust you over that

Also an update. I found that I am starting to sleep a little better now and I am having dreams about other girls without my ex involved. I had a weird one last night where I was with penny out of big bang theory and she was flirting with me.

Also been noticing that girls are generally becoming a bit more flirty and playful (Just joking around more no touching) with me as well not to sure why as I still feel a little insecure

[jimbobday]

I had one more question as well. Can I use AOS during the day and Let Go Of Past Relationships at night?

[Shannon]

(12-08-2011 03:57 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  

(12-07-2011 03:32 PM)Shannon Wrote:  

(12-07-2011 01:12 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  Been having all sorts of weird dreams on this sub. Last night I dreamed I was having my blood tested for drugs and they found anti-depressants very bizarre and my ex was in it as well. Not gonna read to much into it.

First night on the new speakers but unfortunately the phone I had connected up to them died during the night as the plug that I was using to charge the phone broke.

Another thing I'm trying to find out is the frequency response rate on my phone speakers (Galaxy S2) doubt it will be 20Khz but would be great if it was as I could then add listening during the day as well.

The Samsung Galaxy S II speaker can handle ultrasonics just fine. I know this, because I own that particular make and model of phone, and I use it to play subliminals for myself while I am driving. You'll want to keep the volume at 11 or less, as it begins to encounter speaker distortion otherwise... but it works just fine.

Thanks Shannon. This is one thing I have been wondering about and will mean I can get so much more time out of subs and will also mean using them while away on holiday will be so much easier

It was just I read somewhere speakers were only 800hz but I'd trust you over that

Also an update. I found that I am starting to sleep a little better now and I am having dreams about other girls without my ex involved. I had a weird one last night where I was with penny out of big bang theory and she was flirting with me.

Also been noticing that girls are generally becoming a bit more flirty and playful (Just joking around more no touching) with me as well not to sure why as I still feel a little insecure

If the Galaxy S II speaker had a limit on either end of 800 Hz, you probably wouldn't like the result very much. But if it has such a limit, it will be on the low end, meaning it can't play bass very well, which would make sense. We want the high end, where the treble is.

[Shannon]

(12-08-2011 07:00 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  I had one more question as well. Can I use AOS during the day and Let Go Of Past Relationships at night?

You could - but I suggest you consider what you're actually trying to do by doing so. Basically, trying to jump into one relationship before you're finished with another. Which suggests codependency issues... I strongly support that you spend the three months of Let Go Of Past Relationships all alone, healing, and coming to terms with being your own man after such a major relationship (at least it sounds like it was major?)

Having been single and alone for a long time now, I can tell you it sucks sometimes, but I love what has happened to me as a result. I don't need anyone else. I can be perfectly happy all alone, although I do miss the sex and emotional intimacy. But now the healing process for me is almost over, and I suspect a few ladies are going to get what's coming to then in the next couple months. Hehehe...

[jimbobday]

(12-09-2011 11:35 AM)Shannon Wrote:  

(12-08-2011 03:57 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  

(12-07-2011 03:32 PM)Shannon Wrote:  

(12-07-2011 01:12 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  Been having all sorts of weird dreams on this sub. Last night I dreamed I was having my blood tested for drugs and they found anti-depressants very bizarre and my ex was in it as well. Not gonna read to much into it.

First night on the new speakers but unfortunately the phone I had connected up to them died during the night as the plug that I was using to charge the phone broke.

Another thing I'm trying to find out is the frequency response rate on my phone speakers (Galaxy S2) doubt it will be 20Khz but would be great if it was as I could then add listening during the day as well.

The Samsung Galaxy S II speaker can handle ultrasonics just fine. I know this, because I own that particular make and model of phone, and I use it to play subliminals for myself while I am driving. You'll want to keep the volume at 11 or less, as it begins to encounter speaker distortion otherwise... but it works just fine.

Thanks Shannon. This is one thing I have been wondering about and will mean I can get so much more time out of subs and will also mean using them while away on holiday will be so much easier

It was just I read somewhere speakers were only 800hz but I'd trust you over that

Also an update. I found that I am starting to sleep a little better now and I am having dreams about other girls without my ex involved. I had a weird one last night where I was with penny out of big bang theory and she was flirting with me.

Also been noticing that girls are generally becoming a bit more flirty and playful (Just joking around more no touching) with me as well not to sure why as I still feel a little insecure

If the Galaxy S II speaker had a limit on either end of 800 Hz, you probably wouldn't like the result very much. But if it has such a limit, it will be on the low end, meaning it can't play bass very well, which would make sense. We want the high end, where the treble is.

Someone said 800hz on the high end which I can't see how it could possibly be this low myself.

[jimbobday]

(12-09-2011 11:39 AM)Shannon Wrote:  

(12-08-2011 07:00 PM)jimbobday Wrote:  I had one more question as well. Can I use AOS during the day and Let Go Of Past Relationships at night?

You could - but I suggest you consider what you're actually trying to do by doing so. Basically, trying to jump into one relationship before you're finished with another. Which suggests codependency issues... I strongly support that you spend the three months of Let Go Of Past Relationships all alone, healing, and coming to terms with being your own man after such a major relationship (at least it sounds like it was major?)

Having been single and alone for a long time now, I can tell you it sucks sometimes, but I love what has happened to me as a result. I don't need anyone else. I can be perfectly happy all alone, although I do miss the sex and emotional intimacy. But now the healing process for me is almost over, and I suspect a few ladies are going to get what's coming to then in the next couple months. Hehehe...

Thanks. I agree I do have co-dependency issues and will stick with the Get over past relationships sub alone even though it is very tempting to add in AoS.

It was major both in length and emotional intensity (Which quite often happens with BPD) It was off and on for 6 years of which we only spent 4 together with the last 1.5 years living together. So really 3 months healing is nothing plus the extra month its been already. I see my ex has already jumped into a new relationship and moved on which always makes me think if she can get over it so quick why can't I but I have to remember she has BPD and is to scared to visit her issues.

Something has been helping me a little with co-dependancy issues as well. I'm a long way off being over them but neediness was down last night when I approached some girls specifically just to settle a debate with my mates. The girls actually responded very well and there wasn't as much pull to try move things forward. PUA moved me to pushing things forward at all times instead of being natural.

Looking forward to hearing your successes as well Shannon as i'm sure with most of the guys in this forum you will have some great ones coming up

[jimbobday]

Wow if I didn't believe this sub was working I do now.

I just got contacted by my ex saying she is seeing someone else and is very happy.

Its amazing before I would have been destroyed, I would have been a mess. Now it still does hurt but the pain is so much less. Definately going to keep this one up for three months to completely remove that pain

[Shannon]

I went through almost exactly the same length and intensity of relationship with a BPD woman also, and I was co-dependent at the time too. People who have BPD have no self image... they latch on to someone else for that, which is why she immediately got back into a relationship. It really blew me away when my ex told me she was engaged two months after I left her, and married a month later. I spent four years doing everything in my power to make her my wife, but in the end, I couldn't fix her and I couldn't trust her. So she got her marriage, and I got destroyed by the apparent betrayal... but I honestly think that BPD people just don't connect emotionally the same way the rest of us do. For them, it's an overriding and obsessive need to fill that void within them concerning self identity.

[jimbobday]

(12-09-2011 06:15 PM)Shannon Wrote:  I went through almost exactly the same length and intensity of relationship with a BPD woman also, and I was co-dependent at the time too. People who have BPD have no self image... they latch on to someone else for that, which is why she immediately got back into a relationship. It really blew me away when my ex told me she was engaged two months after I left her, and married a month later. I spent four years doing everything in my power to make her my wife, but in the end, I couldn't fix her and I couldn't trust her. So she got her marriage, and I got destroyed by the apparent betrayal... but I honestly think that BPD people just don't connect emotionally the same way the rest of us do. For them, it's an overriding and obsessive need to fill that void within them concerning self identity.

Thanks Shannon sounds exactly like my ex breaks up with me then gets married almost straight away. Then wants to get back with me later.

Even now she has a new relationship she keeps trying to contact me which makes everything so much harder. Oh well 3 months on Let Go Of Past Relationships and ill be well over her

They do don't connect the same as most people do. They think they are madly in love then the next minute they are onto the next thing if that doesn't work the next or back to the old.

I believe that because of the co-dependancy/abandoment I tend to attract these sort of women hence the abandoment sub and Alpha Male will blow these issues out of the water.