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06-08-2017, 06:21 PM
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RE: alpha 4
I feel like all of my desire to have success with women, business etc has been purely driven by ego. This is not real self-confidence. I wonder if all of the pain I'm suffering is the result of exposing the emotions behind my ego driven attempts to get self-confidence from success. In other words from extrinsically validated self-confidence. I wonder if these difficult emotions I have to face are exposed when AM6 undoes the attachment to extrinsic validation. Curious if that's what AM6 actually does.
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06-09-2017, 06:26 AM
Post: #122
RE: alpha 4
(06-08-2017 06:21 PM)ffaux Wrote:  I feel like all of my desire to have success with women, business etc has been purely driven by ego. This is not real self-confidence. I wonder if all of the pain I'm suffering is the result of exposing the emotions behind my ego driven attempts to get self-confidence from success. In other words from extrinsically validated self-confidence. I wonder if these difficult emotions I have to face are exposed when AM6 undoes the attachment to extrinsic validation. Curious if that's what AM6 actually does.

Yes, absolutely. I went through this exact thing. We're brainwashed to believe validation comes from external achievements and status in society, but there's another way and AM6 is showing it to you. To me it's about free will, to understand what we really want instead of what we've been told to want.
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06-09-2017, 03:18 PM (This post was last modified: 06-09-2017 03:19 PM by ffaux.)
Post: #123
RE: alpha 4
It's incredible to me how much of my life has been driven by the desire to externally reinforce my belief that I'm special. I've been told I'm special all my life. Yet to every single woman I've opened my heart, the opposite was true. But I keep seeking ways to be special to women. First it was to be the ideal, the perfect husband material. This left women dryer than a desert. And naturally they got bored. Then it was being a player. Women (when I could get them) were wetter than the ocean. Except they all just used me for their own pleasure like I was a fun toy. Now my ploy is to be selective. It never ends.

It's not just with women. This is especially true in al of my professional endeavours. In a corporate environment I act as if I'm special and people take notice and treat me that way (I obviously back it up with ability and knowledge). In my entrepreneurial endeavours I must, must have an original idea and be at the forefront of thinking or I'm disappointed. It's in my behaviour everywhere in life. Even when I used to play games.

My self-worth is entirely dependent on the world acting towards me as if I am special. When people act like the opposite is true I am completely crushed. And I mean deep depression kind of crushed. Every time I break up with a woman and she shows me that I'm not special my self-worth plummets to zero. Whenever I am rejected professionally or romantically my self-worth plummets to zero.

The most special people I've met though are those who have been extraordinary yet extraordinarily humble. I hope that this is where I'm heading.

Ps. I think, given how much growth I've had to go through to get to this point, that this is a form of validation for my hypothesis that a big source of resistance for me has been the ego balancer. That seems to be where most of the growth is coming from.
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06-12-2017, 08:07 PM
Post: #124
RE: alpha 4
Stage 6 is pushing me to acknowledge something that I don't want to face. I've been trying repeatedly to distract myself and escape from my feelings by watching videos about video games. My mind is afraid to admit to something so it's trying desperately to protect me.

When I don't hide from my feelings I get pangs of anxiety and sadness. It's really difficult to concentrate because focusing on something brings my emotions to the surface. I don't know what it is that is so difficult to accept.
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06-15-2017, 12:38 AM
Post: #125
RE: alpha 4
This most important thing AM6 has done for me this round is to help me stop hating my ex. I had to turn all my non-love feelings into love feelings so I could let her go. In the past I've held on to these things for years but now before its been a year I'm starting to let it go of the worst I've ever been treated by anyone. Good stuff. Thank you Shannon.
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06-20-2017, 05:56 PM (This post was last modified: 06-20-2017 05:57 PM by ffaux.)
Post: #126
RE: alpha 4
My life so far can be described as the great search for significance. A girl I went on a date with a long time ago told me I have an inferiority complex. I think she was right. My journey with AM6 has been so long because I started with no self-worth and all false ego. Everything I have done so far in my life has been motivated by this insecurity: from starting a business to wanting to be popular with girls and friends; even my addiction to games was driven by my desire to be better than everyone around me. Where to from here? Who knows. As usual when a realisation like this comes it inevitably means something has shifted psychologically because of AM6.
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06-21-2017, 08:09 PM
Post: #127
RE: alpha 4
I just realised that I still really seek my social status outside of myself. I need extrinsic things like a job, education, my attractiveness to determine my status. I haven't been able to break this yet after four rounds of AM6. I don't know why.
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06-24-2017, 02:00 PM
Post: #128
RE: alpha 4
Stage 6 complete. Round 4 complete.

Starting stage 7 in two weeks.
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12-03-2017, 02:22 PM
Post: #129
RE: alpha 4
I feel like my ego has been and is being deconstructed.
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12-05-2017, 09:56 PM
Post: #130
RE: alpha 4
I have been operating under the hidden assumption that women have control and power. I hope I'm realising because it's changing. I can see how much this has undermined my success because of overcompensating behaviours.
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12-13-2017, 08:47 PM (This post was last modified: 12-13-2017 08:51 PM by ffaux.)
Post: #131
RE: alpha 4
I should have used E2 after breaking up with my ex. Running AM6 at that time was not a good idea. I'm only now starting to feel my happiness slowly, slowly return, 1.5 years later.
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12-13-2017, 08:59 PM (This post was last modified: 12-13-2017 08:59 PM by Determined.)
Post: #132
RE: alpha 4
This is from Ben's DMSI journal

“Imagine that you have a magical kitchen in your home. In that magical kitchen, you can have any food that you want from any place in the world in any quantity. You never worry about what to eat; whatever you wish for. You are very generous with your food; you give your food unconditionally to others, not because you want something in return from them. Whoever comes to your home, you feed just for the pleasure of sharing your food, and your house is always full of people who come to eat the food from your magical kitchen.

Then one day someone knocks at your door, and it’s a person with a pizza. You open the door, and the person looks at you and says, ‘Hey, do you see this pizza? I’ll give you this pizza I you let me control your life, if you do whatever I want you to do. You are never going to starve because I can bring pizza every day. You just have to be good to me.’

Can you imagine your reaction? In your kitchen you can have the same pizza even better. Yet this person comes to you and offers you food, if you just do whatever she wants you to. You are going to laugh and say, ‘No thank you! I don’t need your food, I have plenty of food!’

Now imagine the exact opposite. Several weeks have gone by and you haven’t eaten. You are starving and you have no money in your pocket to buy food. The person comes with the pizza and says, ‘Hey, there’s food here. You can have this food if you just do what I want you to.’ You can smell the food, and you are starving. You decide to accept the food and do whatever the person asks of you. You eat some food, and she says, ‘If you want more, you can have more, but you have to keep doing what I want you to do.’

You have food today, but tomorrow you may not have food, so you agree to do whatever you can for food. You can become a slave because of food, because you need food because you don’t have it.”

Replace food with 'love' or 'approval'.


ffaux, we make our own happiness. It comes from inside. The phrasing "I'm only now starting to feel my happiness slowly, slowly return" indicates that you've placed it outside of yourself. Just some food for thought
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