Ryan's Sex Magnet - First Round

[Ryan]

Well, Alpha is now over and I'm ready to begin Sex Magnet, what an exciting day! Before I start exposing myself I figured I'd set up my thread and put out some of my goals and where I currently am.

Where I am right now
Alpha Male helped me reach new heights. Especially considering almost a year ago I hit the lowest point in my life. Right now, I am confident, I am dating several women, I have multiplied the number of women I slept with by 5 during 6 months of Alpha Male I have definitely become more selective in the women I date and do not allow women to manipulate me. I do not hesitate to get rid of women that would bring me down. I have learned to pick women up effortlessly on online dating. I have become more honest, direct with my intentions, and able to escalate extremely quickly, in most cases within 30 minutes.

My goals
Alpha Male really worked on my inner game, but my outer game has suffered slightly. I feel so much more attractive right now but I did gain a lot of weight. Hitting the gym is a no-brainer for me, I want to be back to the weight I was last summer. No longer the chubby dude

-Become honest, straight-forward and direct with all of my intentions. I want to be able to speak my mind and tell women straight-up, upon meeting what I want from them.
-I want to become magnetic in public, I want women approaching me everywhere I go and make things effortlessly.
-I want to continue to improve my style for the better, not just for women but for myself.
-I want only the women in my life that I am attracted to, I will only pursue women that have a common interest in myself as well. No longer will waste time on women that I shouldn't be.
-I want to be more social, outgoing and have more fun in my life. My social calendar has gotten pretty full during mid Alpha towards the end, but now I feel less social. I want to take back control of my social life.
-I may get into a relationship with a wonderful, extremely beautiful girl this week but I still want additional options popping up. I want to have lots of fun with her (and possibly others). I want to be a sex god and enjoy sex once again. Anti-depressants ruin my sex life, I want that back.
-I want to be able to escalate very, very quickly. Within minutes, I believe I can do this.
-I want to be more dominate with women, especially in bed, even though I am more dominate now.
-I want to be able to socialize with women with no hidden agenda and if I do have an agenda I want to be able to express that directly.
-Live for myself, continue to improve myself both mentally, physically and spiritually, and I want to loose the neediness I have towards pursuing women.

Ready for the adventure!

[benjamin]

Awesome title

Sounds like you had some very good results from Alpha. Do you contribute your success so far with women due to that? Or did you do other stuff such as visualizations.

I have noticed more interest, but still have trouble getting girls, pulling the trigger so to say.

Good luck with SM. I look forward to when I do it. Ive got about a month of Stage 5 then 40 days of Stage 6 left in Alpha.

-Ben

[Ryan]

The one thing Alpha instilled in me was to go after all the opportunities that presented themselves towards what I want. That and I had the confidence to do what I wanted. So, yes, Alpha Male was the reason behind my success. I remember one night during the sets a thought popped into my head. I told myself, "why the hell am I sitting around waiting for some women to show up in my life...why the f- do I seek more and more answers on how to make this happen, why do I need to wait for women to approach me?" that's when it hit me...If I want to date lots and lots of women, I need to make it happen, just go for what I want and I did.

But now, after 2 days of Sex Magnet, I'm beginning to feel slightly different. I have this feeling of becoming more selective. Being on a pedestal. And removing nice guy intentions... Then again, some of that could be the after-effects of finishing Alpha Male

Ryan

[Spiral]

I agree. Letting go has never been easier. I've sensed an increase in indifference already and I'm comfortable with socializing or not socializing. it's a great feeling

[Ryan]

I gotta say...I feel amazing now that Alpha Male is 100% over. All of that hard, depressive crap just faded and I feel much happier and better about myself. I also feel 100% able to get what I want. I feel much more like a prize and I feel extremely grateful =) When I go out...I feel different. This difference is exciting, I enjoy it. I found out yesterday I'm now able to cut off the rest of my meds. In 3 months I'll be 100% free of medication.

Ryan

[LionMonkey]

Rock on! ;-) I'm glad for you, that it's going up.. up.. up!


- LM

[Ryan]

(07-13-2011 06:09 AM)LionMonkey Wrote:  Rock on! ;-) I'm glad for you, that it's going up.. up.. up!


- LM

Actually, too quick to assume I'm actually beginning to see all the mistakes I made with women flash before my eyes. I'm also learning to put away the 'nice guy' routine and get rid of those nasty habits. I also feel very insulted today. I talked to the BDD girl last night about a relationship and she said "I don't know!" This was after we had amazing sex and spent the night cuddling up on each other, it was perfect. Later on, I told her simply, "Listen, I like you. I want you. And when I want things I go for what I want. I want you to take a chance on something that could be great. I'm not going to wait around for it, so I cannot do this casual dating thing anymore". She's letting too much worry get into the picture and I keep telling her to let it go and take a chance, we could be great. Apparently, she is unsure because she wants her next boyfriend to possibly be her future husband. I told her I cannot wait and told her we'll spend the day together Saturday so we can talk face-to-face about it and then she's going to have to decide. Plus, there is another guy in the picture. A total tool bag I've noticed bugging her on Facebook and he's crazy about her, I believe.

It's insulting to me because I'm not going to sit and wait around for her to decide or hang onto me until she finds someone better. I do the same thing to women, I know what that is like and I'm calling her out on it.

[Spiral]

Maybe she's a manipulative type of girl. I would let it go.

[Ryan]

I don't think she's manipulative...she worries because she's so insecure. She's afraid I'm going to leave her for someone better, that I don't really like her or that I'm not going to be the 'husband-type' she is seeking. She's been hurt lots in the past so it bothers her.

Ryan

[LionMonkey]

(07-13-2011 06:16 AM)Ryan Wrote:  

(07-13-2011 06:09 AM)LionMonkey Wrote:  Rock on! ;-) I'm glad for you, that it's going up.. up.. up!


- LM

Actually, too quick to assume I'm actually beginning to see all the mistakes I made with women flash before my eyes. I'm also learning to put away the 'nice guy' routine and get rid of those nasty habits. I also feel very insulted today. I talked to the BDD girl last night about a relationship and she said "I don't know!" This was after we had amazing sex and spent the night cuddling up on each other, it was perfect. Later on, I told her simply, "Listen, I like you. I want you. And when I want things I go for what I want. I want you to take a chance on something that could be great. I'm not going to wait around for it, so I cannot do this casual dating thing anymore". She's letting too much worry get into the picture and I keep telling her to let it go and take a chance, we could be great. Apparently, she is unsure because she wants her next boyfriend to possibly be her future husband. I told her I cannot wait and told her we'll spend the day together Saturday so we can talk face-to-face about it and then she's going to have to decide. Plus, there is another guy in the picture. A total tool bag I've noticed bugging her on Facebook and he's crazy about her, I believe.

It's insulting to me because I'm not going to sit and wait around for her to decide or hang onto me until she finds someone better. I do the same thing to women, I know what that is like and I'm calling her out on it.

What do you mean dude?? You can drop all your medication soon.. you have several women in your life.. you are aware of things like wanting it the way you want it for real and expressing it..

Just because you felt insulted, does it mean it's going down? No f***ing way man!

Let me ask you this Ryan.. if you had an abundance of women everywhere you go and you just know that you can have this amazing connection with every women you want.. does it really matter that much, that one girl isn't on the same page, as you?


- LM

[LionMonkey]

(07-13-2011 06:21 AM)Ryan Wrote:  I don't think she's manipulative...she worries because she's so insecure. She's afraid I'm going to leave her for someone better, that I don't really like her or that I'm not going to be the 'husband-type' she is seeking. She's been hurt lots in the past so it bothers her.

Ryan

I once heard from a wise man, that if you are going to commit and get feelings for a girl, then you should be ready to sacrifice a lot.


- LM

[Ryan]

(07-13-2011 06:23 AM)LionMonkey Wrote:  

(07-13-2011 06:16 AM)Ryan Wrote:  

(07-13-2011 06:09 AM)LionMonkey Wrote:  Rock on! ;-) I'm glad for you, that it's going up.. up.. up!


- LM

Actually, too quick to assume I'm actually beginning to see all the mistakes I made with women flash before my eyes. I'm also learning to put away the 'nice guy' routine and get rid of those nasty habits. I also feel very insulted today. I talked to the BDD girl last night about a relationship and she said "I don't know!" This was after we had amazing sex and spent the night cuddling up on each other, it was perfect. Later on, I told her simply, "Listen, I like you. I want you. And when I want things I go for what I want. I want you to take a chance on something that could be great. I'm not going to wait around for it, so I cannot do this casual dating thing anymore". She's letting too much worry get into the picture and I keep telling her to let it go and take a chance, we could be great. Apparently, she is unsure because she wants her next boyfriend to possibly be her future husband. I told her I cannot wait and told her we'll spend the day together Saturday so we can talk face-to-face about it and then she's going to have to decide. Plus, there is another guy in the picture. A total tool bag I've noticed bugging her on Facebook and he's crazy about her, I believe.

It's insulting to me because I'm not going to sit and wait around for her to decide or hang onto me until she finds someone better. I do the same thing to women, I know what that is like and I'm calling her out on it.

What do you mean dude?? You can drop all your medication soon.. you have several women in your life.. you are aware of things like wanting it the way you want it for real and expressing it..

Just because you felt insulted, does it mean it's going down? No f***ing way man!

Let me ask you this Ryan.. if you had an abundance of women everywhere you go and you just know that you can have this amazing connection with every women you want.. does it really matter that much, that one girl isn't on the same page, as you?


- LM

Of course not...that's why I threw in all the cards and told her it's either us or nothing. Of course, it's still going to sting if she says no because I do have feelings for this girl but if it doesn't happen, that is fate and I'll be fine with it.

[LionMonkey]

Quote:Of course not...that's why I threw in all the cards and told her it's either us or nothing. Of course, it's still going to sting if she says no because I do have feelings for this girl but if it doesn't happen, that is fate and I'll be fine with it.

Yeah, forgot you said you had feelings for her.. I understand.

Honestly, to me it sounds like you are throwing things right out there and she might feel, that it's a too big thing.
Have you guys tried to take a trip to another country together or just have done some kind of boyfriend-girlfriend things?

Well anyway.. best of the luck to you my man!


- LM

[Ryan]

(07-13-2011 06:30 AM)LionMonkey Wrote:  

Quote:Of course not...that's why I threw in all the cards and told her it's either us or nothing. Of course, it's still going to sting if she says no because I do have feelings for this girl but if it doesn't happen, that is fate and I'll be fine with it.

Yeah, forgot you said you had feelings for her.. I understand.

Honestly, to me it sounds like you are throwing things right out there and she might feel, that it's a too big thing.
Have you guys tried to take a trip to another country together or just have done some kind of boyfriend-girlfriend things?

Well anyway.. best of the luck to you my man!


- LM

Well we click well and she seems to have this feeling that I don't really like her because I think she's ugly and unattractive. She says "why would a hot, fun guy like you want to be with an ugly girl like me?". I'm so used to girls wanting a relationship out of me very, very quickly and it's hard to get over the fact that she has to sit and think about it even though we've been seeing each other since April/May...Supposedly she thought I'd never consider settling with her and I told her I wanted to and well she wants to take things very slow and for me that seems strange (bc of what I mean when I say I don't want to rush into one).

I like that though, "Do boyfriend-girlfriend things with her", thanks =)

[Shannon]

Ryan, you're not understanding this girl.

She feels insecure because you're not willing to commit to a degree she feels safe with. If you think you can really commit to her and her alone, then do it and she'll jump. But you don't want that... you want to have your cake (her) and eat it too (everyone else you can bed). She is intensely insecure, and you'll never ever get her without either removing those insecurities, or working with them.

You aren't going to get rid of them. I'd put money on that. So your option is... move on, or settle down with her and her alone.

Since you obviously have no intent on settling down with her and her alone, you don't have options. It is absolutely inevitable that she will be too insecure to trust you based on your choices and behavior, and you will move on.

[Ryan]

(07-13-2011 12:18 PM)Shannon Wrote:  Ryan, you're not understanding this girl.

She feels insecure because you're not willing to commit to a degree she feels safe with. If you think you can really commit to her and her alone, then do it and she'll jump. But you don't want that... you want to have your cake (her) and eat it too (everyone else you can bed). She is intensely insecure, and you'll never ever get her without either removing those insecurities, or working with them.

You aren't going to get rid of them. I'd put money on that. So your option is... move on, or settle down with her and her alone.

Since you obviously have no intent on settling down with her and her alone, you don't have options. It is absolutely inevitable that she will be too insecure to trust you based on your choices and behavior, and you will move on.

Shannon my post was about settling down with her and her alone. That's why I gave her the choice, either date me exclusively like I want or we can't casually see each other anymore. I don't want to have her and sleep with others. I want her and only her and I made that clear to her.

[Shannon]

(07-13-2011 12:25 PM)Ryan Wrote:  

(07-13-2011 12:18 PM)Shannon Wrote:  Ryan, you're not understanding this girl.

She feels insecure because you're not willing to commit to a degree she feels safe with. If you think you can really commit to her and her alone, then do it and she'll jump. But you don't want that... you want to have your cake (her) and eat it too (everyone else you can bed). She is intensely insecure, and you'll never ever get her without either removing those insecurities, or working with them.

You aren't going to get rid of them. I'd put money on that. So your option is... move on, or settle down with her and her alone.

Since you obviously have no intent on settling down with her and her alone, you don't have options. It is absolutely inevitable that she will be too insecure to trust you based on your choices and behavior, and you will move on.

Shannon my post was about settling down with her and her alone. That's why I gave her the choice, either date me exclusively like I want or we can't casually see each other anymore. I don't want to have her and sleep with others. I want her and only her and I made that clear to her.

My bad. But my point remains valid: she's afraid you won't be faithful. And I believe you're approaching this backwards, as well.

With this girl, here's what I suggest doing. If you really want her, and her alone, take the insecurity away by taking the helm, and not only making the decisions, but showing her with your actions that you are serious. Don't tell her to decide; that will make her afraid of making the wrong choice.

Instead, tell her, "I have decided you're the one I want to settle down with, and you're now my official girlfriend. Game rules are, we are going to be absolutely faithful to one another from now on. Any complaints with my decision, see the complaints department. From now on, you're mine and mine alone, and that goes both ways. Capiche?"

This will take her insecurities away in a major way, because you made the decision for her, and in doing so, the particular decision you made (to be mutually faithful and committed) will make her feel safe.

She wants her next boyfriend to be her husband. Do you want her to be your wife?

[Ryan]

I like that...but Shannon. She said she wants her next boyfriend to hopefully be her husband. I'm not sure if I want her as a wife, I cannot decide that right now, that would take quite some time together, obviously.

[Shannon]

(07-13-2011 12:32 PM)Ryan Wrote:  I like that...but Shannon. She said she wants her next boyfriend to hopefully be her husband. I'm not sure if I want her as a wife, I cannot decide that right now, that would take quite some time together, obviously.

So tell her... "Look, we can't know if we'd make a good married couple without being boyfriend and girlfriend for a reasonable amount of time. But you are someone I'm willing to settle down with and be faithful to. You should understand that it's a very special thing for me to be willing to settle down with you, and that I'm not playing games here. I really do want you. So, now that you're my girlfriend, let's get started on figuring out how to make this work, shall we?"

It's perfectly reasonable for you to feel the way you do, and same for her. Here you need to compromise. Give her your undivided attention and affection, and ask in return that she give you time to be comfortable making such a major decision (marriage).

[Ryan]

Thanks, Shannon.